With Thanksgiving being in a few days, I wanted to remind you of the reasons we celebrate the holiday because Ed can try to convince us otherwise. Thanksgiving is a time to give thanks for who we have in our life and how much our life is filled with love and gratitude for ourselves and others. Spending time with family and friends and making memories is what it’s all about.
I know you may get overwhelmed with all the obsessive thoughts, stressors, and anxiety you may be faced with, but take your control back from Ed and switch your thinking by saying positive affirmations and mantras and push Ed aside. Be in the present moment with friends and family and feel the experience rather than being caught up with Ed and all his lies. You are strong enough…you can do it!
Take some deep breaths. Be proactive and make a plan if you get into trouble–call a friend, bring affirmation cards with you, bring your journal, distract yourself by watching TV or conversing with family, bring a small tangible object that makes you smile and gives you strength and put it by your plate or hold in your hand, put smiley face stickers on the back of your hands so you can look down and see something happy, listen to your favorite music on your iPod. When it comes time to eat dinner, respect the food for the medicine it is to nourish your brain and body to keep you healthy. Remember, there is no such thing as bad foods. It’s all ok to eat.
Yes, a lot of food may be around during this time, but concentrate on the family and friends you are with and tell Ed to get lost. Tell him you don’t want him to be part of your holiday season. Tell him he is not welcomed and he needs to leave you alone. Stay strong and know you are not alone during this Thanksgiving. Fight for yourself and fight for your recovery. It’s all worth it. I’ll be thinking of you all.
With health, hope and strength,