With Thanksgiving being this week, I wanted to remind you of some reasons we celebrate the holiday because Ed can try to convince you otherwise. Thanksgiving is a time to give thanks for who we have in our life and how much our life is filled with love and gratitude for ourselves (even if you don’t believe it) and others. Spending time with family and making memories is what it’s all about.
I know you may get overwhelmed with all the thoughts you may be faced with around the food or family but reframe your thinking (you can do it!) to a positive by saying positive affirmations and mantras to push Ed aside. Say a positive manta of: “I am OK, I can do this” or “I am stronger than Ed” Try to be in the present moment with friends and family and feel the experience for all that it is rather giving Ed the control. Take your control back and tell him No.
Take some deep breaths. Be proactive and make a plan if you get into trouble –call a friend, bring affirmation cards with you, bring your journal, distract by watching TV or converse with family, bring a small tangible object that makes you smile and gives you strength. If you are overwhelmed with all the food around, remove yourself from the kitchen and go chat with family or make a phone call or text someone to check in for support. Bring a book to read or play a video game. When it comes time to eat dinner, remember the food is medicine and its job is to nourish your brain and body to keep you healthy. Food is not the enemy…Ed is. Remember, there is no such thing as bad foods. It’s all ok to eat.
Yes food is around during this time but concentrate on the family and friends you are with and tell Ed to get lost. Tell him you don’t want him to be part of your holiday season. Tell him he is not welcomed and he needs to leave you alone. Use your recovery tools to assist you. If you keep telling him he is not wanted and are proactive in recovery, he does go away. Stay strong and know you are not alone during this Thanksgiving . Fight for yourself and fight for your recovery. You got this! I’ll be thinking of you.
With health, hope and strength,